Salam, I have questions regarding getting married.
(1) How much parents should be involved in selecting a wife for their son.
(2) What kind of right does their son has in regards to selecting a wife for himself.
In addition to that I would like to share my part of life. I have been in connection with a girl for about 4 years, we're classmates and then we got in touch with each other. We did not meet for once ever. Long story short, I have little info about Islamic strictness that our connection was haram and all. We stopped it and I sincerely ask for forgiveness from Allah all the time for that. My concern is that my mother is forcing me to marry her sisters daughter and putting a lot of pressure on me about that. And when i say that i respect your opinion but I cannot get along with her so please do not force me. But in return, all i got was abusive behaviour and statements like "I have ruined their life If I'll marry of my choice and how could they face the society".
So: What are the advises that I could benefit from and what Islam says about parents behaviour as such and also what Islam says about a son approaching parents and showing his desire.