assalamu alaikum wa rahmetullahi wa barakatuhu
Im married for 10 years and have 4 children. During these 10 years I have told my wife 5-6 times that I divorce her. I can't remember exactly everytime what happened, I only know that I was very angry and that I couldn't control myself. Every time after 2 days everything was like before . I have to mention that I didn't know that every time I said that I divorce her, it counts as a real divorce. I thought that only when she leaves from my house that counts as a divorce. She has never left my home. we are still together and we don't want to separate. Please answer - is our marriage valid?