Very sorry to hear about your situation my dear sister. I hope all your issues are resolved soon.
1-Ofcourse his actions are not justifiable. A man and woman come together to live under one roof to be happy and better half of one another. This demands love, understanding, sacrifice from both sides.
2- A good husband has many characteristics the Least I can say is that, he should be someone who understands his wife and the Least he can acknowledge is that his wife has left all her loved ones and belonging and Came to his life. Hence he should at Least be there for her. Spiritually, Physically, mentally, materially etc.
3- you can make your relationship work by doing the following things (there are many to list, but some of which):
i) make plenty of dua. Apart form reciting duas, I suggest you take some time and speak to Allah. Constantly speak to HIM. This act will really help you overcome your depression and sadness. Everyone needs to let our their feelings and fears and what's better than telling the Almighty who has EVERYTHING in his Hands?!
ii) choose a very cozy time to speak to your husband. Choose a time that you feel is best to let him know of your concerns. Make sure this does not come out harsh or loud. Take baby steps in this. For instance day one talk about the good times like marriage preparation, day two talk about how good and loving he has been and the good times before, day three as to how much you miss doing a particular thing with him that involved maybe going out or so, day four talk about how you see a man of God he is and what a great father he will make, day five talk about your concern like future or kids upbringing etc, day six explain sometimes you feel sad and unhappy, day seven express how you can't really coupe with your sadness and need his help to find out the reason....etc etc...Eventually you will reach your goal. This will slowly make a communication bridge between the two of you and he will get an idea of your inner din.
Sometimes sister, we feel men know and understand exactly what we feel and go through. But in reality our understanding is incorrect. They need to be informed.
iii) speak to someone who your husband will listen to. This should come indirectly so that your husband is not offended about your initiative.
4) As a wife, be a listener. Even if he is a quiet man or so. Try pick up a conversation and be a good listener. This will make him feel you love and are ready to be by his side. Take interest in his interest and see how it works. In the meantime do things that will make him give you attention. Having humour between the two of you is very important.
5) for anxiety, depression and the like. Quran always helps. Play it in the house often and probably also As to some meaning of the ayahs. Truly its nothing but Words of the wisest.
Also, if possible let your husband know of your feelings and concerns regarding your situation. Again slowly and gentle and see if things budge.
Before i end this, i would like to bring to your attention that this is not something Allah or the religion is wishing for you, Rather it's your husband's voluntary actions. And for such actions no one is accountable except himself.
Also, wishing for friends, clothes, degree or the like does not make you a bad Muslim. To the contrary you're trying to make use of the blessing Allah has made halal and sweet on you. We have so many traditions emphasising on having good friends, wearing dignified clothes and seeking knowledge. Infact the Quran itself stresses so much on knowledge!
If Allah wished man to be isolated and grow spiritually in isolation then the Holy Prophet and his Holy Household would have led the same life. However history shows how loving and people's person they were. They had a lot of lovers, friends, companions. They always dressed very smart and wore perfume, and always engaged themselves into acquiring knowledge and more over sharing it.
I hope I was able to answer your Question.
In my prayers