Thank you for your Question and sorry to hear about your experience
It is true that no matter what, you should respect your father.
Their position in our religion is very very high to the extent that whenever Allah talks about HIS right, he talks about the rights of parents right after!
E.g. sura Israa:23
(( your Lord has decreed that you shall not worship anyone except him, and (He has enjoined) kindness to parents. Should they reach old age at your side-one of them or both- do not say to them, “Fie!” (Uff), and do not chide them but speak to them noble words. Lower the wing of Humility to them out of mercy, and say, My Lord! have mercy on them just as they reared me when I was (a small) child))
Also, in the same Ayah above, you can see that Allah dislikes the smallest word uttered in from of parents out of disrespect!
It is true, that it can be very frustrating and difficult to balance this, but it is doable. Usually silence pays off and avoids all the follow up quarrels and yelling.
Disrespecting parents, is a grave sin, whose consequences are such that the human shall see it in this world and the next.
InshaAllah that things are solved and you’re able to enjoy him. One of the best thing you can do is make a lot of dua.