Waalykum salam my dear sister
Thank you for your Question
I must applaud you for your faith and steadfastness on your your belief.
Since you’re so young, I’d suggest you go through an intensive course on Aqaid.
Your concerns and queries are all rising from the deficiency and lack of the same. This will help you make firm decisions and also help your thoughts to fall in place.
I’d like to bring to your kind attention a few things that I was able to extract from your writing:
1- not all people are necessarily connected to God if they came from a Religious country like say Iran!
Rather, HIS love will only really illuminate in the hearts that really have the capacity to hold it! So let not someone else’s choices effect ours!
2- The same Allah that you love so dearly has chosen a code of dress for you. If one believes HIM to be so complete and fit to worship, then how can the same doubt HIS wisdom into choosing for his creation!? He ordained hijab for women because that’s what gives them their place and respect in the society!
Moreover, since we are encased in our physical bodies, Allah made a good fusion between the two to show the effect of one on the other. Like you have to physically make wudhoo to be able to pray, or physically stay hungry and thirsty to be able to fast, etc
In the same manner, like a wedding band does not make any sense on wearing it but still symbolizes love and belongingness, Hijab would do the same and symbolize love and belongingness to this Master who is the most kind, loving and wise.
3- according to the Islamic law, women are not allowed to be judges in court of law. You may want to seek further assistance and guidance from you local scholar in this regard